Truth is, women often struggle with the word, no. They offer reasons such as, I don’t want to be rude, or I want him to like me. No doesn’t sound like a difficult word, but if you’re a woman ask yourself:
1. Have you ever said yes to a second date you didn’t really want?
2. Have you ever told a guy you liked him, when you really wished he’d go away?
3. If a guy approaches you on the street do you stop and talk to him?
4. If a guy gets into your elevator and no one else is around, do you immediately exit the elevator or stay inside and hope for the best?
If you said yes to any of the above, don’t feel bad, you’re in good company.
Women care about relationships, and I’m not talking just about romantic relationships. Women desire to connect with others and are more likely to agree (when they actually disagree) to preserve or build a relationship. We are wired to seek connection with others. This is something to celebrate, a wonderful, God given characteristic. We are often the glue holding our families together.
So…..how do you take a wonderful attribute and tailor it to ensure it doesn’t put you in danger? I say, planning and practice. Here are some tips:
· Talk about these issues. Bring them up with your friends, daughters and sisters.
· Decide in advance what you will say and do, to get out of an uncomfortable situation.
· Practice doing it. Role-play with men you trust or with other women. This may feel silly but it works!
Stay safe out there!